Talking about adoption, birthparents, abandonment, race, and China with my kids. That's not all we talk about -- but reading this blog, you'll think it's all we do!!!!!
We have also discussed a lot about limb difference in relation to abandonment. And we discuss a lot about fear in meeting us and knowing us now, we talk about that in relation to M's movement from birthfamily, to orphanage 1 to orphanage 2, to foster family, to us. She had severe PTSD (has as it is lifelong and managed) so we address those feelings as well.
I am really limited by Glenys' understanding of babies being born and limited by her age (4) and attention span. Right now she doesn't have the attention span to discuss abandonment or birth parents in depth. We have touched on almost all of the options once. I just gauge what I say by her questions and her attention span or understanding.
Beverly,My daughter is also four. You may want to look for the book It's Not the Stork; it really helped M in her understanding of babies and where they are from (it is made for kids 4 to 7). I think it will help you advance your discussions and come to a better understanding of her beginnings. Just a thought.
We have hit almost all of them. Interestingly, we discuss Sydney's birth mother and birth family - but she has asked nothing about the birth father. I am waiting as usual.
I just wanted to echo the recommendation for "It's Not the Stork." My daughter is 4.5 and I have found this book, and a second one called "Boys, Girls and Body Science: A First Book About Facts of Life," very helpful in giving her a basic understanding of reproduction. This has allowed us to begin talking about her adoption story more fully despite her rather tender years.
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