I worried at least a little about this, myself. (But not enough to avoid adoption -- I couldn't wait to adopt. :) My husband and I speak at our adoption agency about our experiences with open adoption, transracial adoption, etc. during their required education classes. The way I explain that part of our journey to people is that the end result -- the deep, intimate, protective love for our child -- is the same for each child. But the journey there is a little different.Not something I can opine on, having only adopted kids. Those out there with both, do you agree? How was the bonding experience the same or different for you?
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I think the main thing is that in adoption it's important to realize that the actual bonding journey is different than with a child you gave birth to, and that's normal and doesn't reflect your long-term love and commitment to your child.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Will I love my adopted child like I love my bio child?
At Adoptive Momma of Two, guest blogger Kiara, who has one bio child and two adopted child and is pregnant with her fourth child, addresses that question: