Mexican Takeaway. (Yeah, I just had to share the cover.) In British-speak, "takeaway" equals "takeout," like the icky references to China adoption as "Chinese Takeout" to distinguish it from "homemade" kids.
Mexican Takeaway -- most offensive title for an adoptive parent memoir ever, as Dawn queried? I'd sure put it on the top 3 list!
I haven't read the book, but between the author's website descriptions and what I could read through Amazon's look inside feature, the basic theme seems to be that she and her husband wanted to offer a home to a needy child and everyone in Britain tried to stop them. So off they go to Mexico to rescue a needy child. Part of the attempts to stop them from adopting were British social workers who deemed them "too white" to adopt. In fact, Too White to Adopt is the title of the first chapter of the book.
You know, SOMETIMES it isn't about the race of the potential adoptive parent. SOMETIMES it's about racial ATTITUDES of the potential adoptive parents. It's like a case I teach in Adoption Law, where white foster parents sue the state when it won't approve their adoption of their African-American foster child. It's gotta be because they're white, right? Never mind that the mom initially said she didn't want to foster any black children because she didn't want anyone to think the child was hers and that she'd slept with a black man. Never mind that she told the social worker she didn't know how to take care of black kids, like they were some other species. Never mind that she told the psychologist that she didn't think it important to do anything different to help an African-American child form a positive racial identity. Never mind that she told the social worker she had no black friends and "wasn't going to manufacture" black friends just to help her potential adopted child.
So, I gotta wonder here, with an adoptive parent who could use such an insensitive book title, whether she was "too white," or whether her attitude was dismissive and insensitive to racial differences . . . .
That's my takeaway.
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