One of the adult sessions at China Heritage Camp was about the things that make emotional connections more challenging. It was a mish-mosh of attachment issues, post-institutionalized behaviors, brain chemistry, and temperament.
On the list above, about temperament, the speaker asked us to mark where we were on the continuum above the line and where our child(ren) were below the line. On just about every measure, Zoe was on one extreme, Maya was on the other extreme, and I was in the middle (My mom did us all, too, and her answers aligned with mine pretty well).
Yep, that's pretty much how we live! Consider something as simple as a walk in the park -- there's Zoe, way ahead, and Maya, lagging way behind, and there's me in the middle, saying, "Zoe, slow down! Maya, speed up!" Sigh.
So where do you and your child(ren) fall?