My daughter is adopted from China at age 10 months from foster care in 2006. She is wonderful, smart, and delightful and on target in every way except one…she is not potty trained. And when I say that I mean potty and poop trained. She is seeing a therapist (for the last year) who has just said that she thinks A. might have Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome with potty training issues. We are working with her just sitting on the toilet in a pull up and cutting a very small hole in the pull up. She hasn’t gotten to the point where she will let a drop come out.Any advice, especially from been-there-done-that parents?
She has gastrointestinal issues and was seriously constipated as a baby and still is and takes Miralax. When we got A. she had anal tearing and scarring so we know that she had major pain when pooping. She will be 5 next month and it breaks my heart to see her so scared to potty. I mean it is real fear and her therapist does not think it has to do with an attachment problem or control problem. Could you ask on your blog if anyone else has these issues and what they did to resolve them? A. is a very shy child and so scared of the toilet, potty, and poop. It just breaks my heart. I’d appreciate anything you could do to help.
The Angrier Adoptee, part 1
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