It's been awhile since I've had a stranger make jaw-droppingly inappropriate comments about adoption in front of my kids. That changed Saturday. A nice lady, after complimenting my girls' beauty, tells me that her son taught English in Japan, and when he went she told him to bring her back "one of those Asian babies." She was disappointed when he didn't, but then he gave her a grandchild that was "her own blood," so it turned out OK. And it didn't stop there! She goes on to tell me that she was only 39 when her youngest child moved out, and she really wanted to adopt "one of those Asian babies," but she couldn't convince her husband to adopt (thank goodness, is MY thought!).
I'm pretty sure I just stood there gaping like a fish out of water. And the worst part is I HAD to be nice, which I don't usually worry too much about with strangers. But we were visiting my dad at hospice, and she was visiting someone at hospice, and it didn't seem good form to jump all over her when she had a dying loved one in the vicinity. Sigh.
Grieving the Unknown.
3 days ago