Hope you had a good time ringing in 2009! We rang in the new year with a group of our adoption friends -- our 8th annual Pajama Party New Year's Eve. Our first party was right after most of us returned from China with our first children. We had all waited together, and traveled between October and December 2001, so we all had teeny-tinies at New Year's Eve.
That first year, most of our conversations were little different from other first-time parents -- the incredible things our kids did, sleep issues (for us and the kids!), bottles and diapers and what's on sale at BabiesRUs. In following years, the talk was the same as most parents, but might include the cute Chinese ornaments at Kohl's and the cute Asian doll found at Tuesday Morning. And for most of us, the talk reverted to baby talk as we were seeking to adopt child two or three (or four!) from China.
Now in year 8, the conversations were a little different.
What should I do about the little boy in her class who makes her cry by saying China is bad? Has your child asked about siblings in China, because mine has? Mine says she misses her birth parents -- is that normal? Mine has never mentioned her birth parents -- is that normal? A little girl in her class asked why her birth parents gave her up, and she said, "I don't know, I guess they wanted me to have a better life."
New years, new stages, hoping all will be good!
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