Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Sandwiched

Ah, the sandwich generation -- those of us parenting young children and helping elderly parents at the same time.  Since adoptive parents are older than average, it isn't any wonder that more of us are feeling sandwiched right now.  Usually it's a nice PB & J sandwich, plenty sweet even when it's a bit sticky.

You might have noticed that I'm off my blogging game -- fewer posts, and more posts that send you somewhere else instead of giving you something substantive to read here.  My excuse is being a bit sandwiched right now.  The kids are almost finished with school -- Maya finished last week, and Zoe just has 2 more half-days.  My classes are finished, but I'm trying to complete my grading -- 93 essay exams  -- which is challenging without the kids being in school.  An open-faced sandwich, maybe turkey drowning a bit in gravy.

And then to top off the sandwich, my dad is in the hospital.  He's doing fine physically -- he's in a long-term hospital facility for pulmonary rehab. As I've told the kids, he's no sicker than he was, he's just in the hospital to help him become stronger.  The problem is that he doesn't do as well mentally when he's in the hospital.  Like calling 911 to report he'd been kidnapped and held against his will.  Really.  When Maya and I visited him the morning after the 911 incident, Maya spent the rest of the day marveling at how grouchy her usually sweet Grandpa was.  I don't know what to call this sandwich -- maybe a wrap sandwich not quite tightly wrapped?! And I don't mean Grandpa -- I'm the one not quite tightly wrapped.  Sigh.

Anyway, stick around and I'll try to do better, maybe a hearty beefy sandwich in the next day or two!

6 comments:

OmegaMom said...

Oh, yes, being sandwiched does take it out of you. Here's to pulmonary rehab helping your dad!

a Tonggu Momma said...

I'm sorry it's been rough, Malinda. I pray your dad feels better very soon, both physically and in spirit. Being in the hospital can really drain you emotionally.

Jerri said...

It is so hard and accepting the change in our parents makes it more difficult. I was always the one that everyone deferred all problems to because I was the only one not married. When I adopted Grace, it caused a huge shift in responsibilities for everyone, it caught them off guard that I could no longer drop everything and run to help!
I hope to read improvements of your dad soon. I feel for you.

Anonymous said...

Thinking good thoughts for your dad. May I recommend a strong bribe for your kids to leave you alone to get your grading done? We would be glad to have company if you need some alone time.
Sue (aka anonymous)

LisaLew said...

You have done a great job sending out info on the blog, you always go above and beyond what any reader should expect.
I hope your Dad is better and home where he is more comfortable soon.

Christina said...

Thinking of you...