The debate between surrogacy or adoption is won by the benefits of surrogacy hands down in our estimation. Are you prepared for the unpredictable and life long consequences of adoption as you contemplate one of the most important decisions of your life?Ugh. The adoptee as irretrievably broken -- pathological, even -- is another favorite media meme. Because, of course, no kids raised by their biological parents use a security blanket or suck their thumbs and certainly none of them commit suicide. And then there's all the insulting stereotypes about birth mothers -- on welfare, promiscuous, doesn't know who the baby daddy is. Double ugh.
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With the surrogacy or adoption issue it's not the child. It's where it came from that is the risk. You can never be absolutely certain about what the parents of the child you may adopt were like. The typical woman who places a child for adoption is not really a woman at all. She is usually a teenage girl, unemployed, uneducated, on welfare and can't afford to take care of a child. She often does not know which of her sexual partners was the real father. There are aspects you will never know, such as what emotional and psychological damage the child may have in the long run. In nearly every case of adoption there are problems down the road that will impact your family, for better or worse.
I was stuck the other day upon seeing Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt at the Olympics on TV with their adopted daughter from Africa. She was still clutching a security blanket and sucking her thumb. Also, there was the tragedy in February of 2010 when Marie Osmond's adopted son committed suicide.
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