My 9 year old son was asking me the difference between step-brothers and sisters, and half-brothers and sisters, so this gave us an opportunity to sit and talk about how children are created and how he relates to his (half) brother who we have also adopted.Go to the site to see the drawing.
He then sat down and drew this picture (below). At first I couldn’t work out what he’d drawn, but then he explained; along the top row were his birth mother, birth father, and the other 2 men his mother had had children with. Along the middle line were all his siblings. Finally along the bottom, was me and my partner, and the other adoptive parents that make up his siblings families.
Despite all the training, it wasn’t until I looked at this diagram, that it really brought home the complexity of my boy’s life.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
From the British Association for Adoption & Fostering, a dad's post about the complications of his adopted son's family: