During these years when teens are figuring out their identities they take multiple factors into account. And they do all of this within the context of a developing brain, raging hormonal upheaval, and parents who are often befuddled and bewildered by their behavior and about what to do.What's scary is the thought that a teen adoptee may not already have answers to these questions! Do I have other siblings? Really?! You haven't already talked about this with your kid?!
It is no wonder why the teen years sometimes become a time of struggle for adopted teens. They have additional questions that they ask including:
1. What were my biological parents like?
2. Am I going to turn out like them?
3. Why did they give me up? They didn't even take the time to get to know me.
4. Will I be abandoned repeatedly since I was already abandoned by my biological parents? Imagine how hard it must be for the adolescent to experience and deal with the loss of an unknown person.
5. Do I have other siblings?
6. Will I get to meet my biological parents?
The author, a Ph.D. psychologist, offers some suggestions for helping teens deal with these questions. I find the advice pretty superficial, but at least it's a starting place, I suppose. With an 11-year-old, I'm already obsessing about the coming teenage years!