Talking about adoption, birthparents, abandonment, race, and China with my kids. That's not all we talk about -- but reading this blog, you'll think it's all we do!!!!!
I am still skeptical! How could this boy get through all of security alone? I am not defending the family, shame on these people for ruining this boy's life. I just think there's some part of this story missing that is not being said or known.
My guess is the missing part of story = Reactive Attachment Disorder. Not saying this was the best way for this family to handle the situation, but honestly there is little to no understanding of the disorder, and virtually no help for families. Unless you have lived with a severely disordered child, you really have no idea how emotionally difficult it can be. I feel for all of them, the boy and the family.
RAD seems to have been upfront in the note around his neck, why didn't they seek help, so many unanswered questions, so many cruel decisions? No matter how sorry you feel for the adults they did the wrong thing,added another trauma to a traumatised child's life..where is the compassion, the ordinary human caring? The boy's life was already ruined, imagine his difficulties from now on.Responsible adults do responsible things whatever the circumstances.
I am still skeptical! How could this boy get through all of security alone? I am not defending the family, shame on these people for ruining this boy's life. I just think there's some part of this story missing that is not being said or known.
ReplyDeleteMy guess is the missing part of story = Reactive Attachment Disorder. Not saying this was the best way for this family to handle the situation, but honestly there is little to no understanding of the disorder, and virtually no help for families. Unless you have lived with a severely disordered child, you really have no idea how emotionally difficult it can be.
ReplyDeleteI feel for all of them, the boy and the family.
RAD seems to have been upfront in the note around his neck, why didn't they seek help, so many unanswered questions, so many cruel decisions?
ReplyDeleteNo matter how sorry you feel for the adults they did the wrong thing,added another trauma to a traumatised child's life..where is the compassion, the ordinary human caring? The boy's life was already ruined, imagine his difficulties from now on.Responsible adults do responsible things whatever the circumstances.