Hi! Remember me? I'm Zoe. I'm worried that I will never see my birth parents and they might have forgotten me. Do you ever feel that way? If you do, please give me advice. I miss my birth parents. I miss them because I wish I spent more time with them, and then got adopted. So then I could tell my America family about what China is like. Then people could pass it on and everyone or almost everyone would go to China.
Bye!
Zoe
Zoe has been very impressed with Eden's blog (Eden is an 11-year-old China adoptee, and she blogs with her mom, Darlene Friedman, the author of Star of the Week, A Story of Love, Adoption and Brownies with Sprinkles), and told me the other day that she wants to start her own blog. I've suggested that she should post to my blog for awhile to see if she really wants the responsibility of her own blog. So expect to hear more from Zoe here!
Dear Zoe,
ReplyDeleteI want to tell you a story and maybe it will help you a little bit with your worries about having been forgotten.
A little more than 20years ago, when I was young,I had my first child, my son. There are many reasons that he was placed for adoption, but mostly because I hoped it would be best for him.
When he was 18 he searched and found me and his dad and his little sister. We were very happy that he did. On one of his visits he asked me if we ever thought about him while he was growing up. I was able to tell him that we thought about him, and loved him and missed him every single moment of every single day of his life. That every time we went somewhere or did something that he was with us in our hearts. We promised him that we had never ever, for a single moment, forgot him. How could we? He was our baby, and even though we did not raise him or get to see him, he was still our baby and he always will be. I know our son was very relieved to know that.
I hope that one day Zoe that you will get to meet your China family and that your mama will tell you that she never forgot about you, that she loved you and missed you every day.
Because you know what Zoe? I know in my heart that it is true.
Big Hugs to you Zoe!
Denise
Hi Zoe,
ReplyDeleteMy name is Madeline. I wish I could see my birth parents more often. I met my birth parents, but I don't get to see them much and I have pictures of them and I have a photobook of them and me. I am happy I have pictures of them, but I am sad that I don't get to see them.
I don't have much advice right now. Keep thinking of your birth family. That's it for now.
Madeline
Hello Zoe,
ReplyDeleteIts hard to wonder about things that you don't have answers for isn't it? I understand how you feel, and I think most adopted kids feel the same way. I am sure your birth Mom thinks of you everyday! I bet she wonders what you look like now, just like you wonder about her. She hopes that you are a happy little girl, and you are! She waned you to have a wonderful Mommy, and you do. I know she would be really proud of you. I know she hopes too that she can see you again. I am sure your birth Mom wanted the most wonderful life for you...with all the hopes and dreams that your heart desires.
Remember that you can always talk about these feelings, and your Mommy will always try to help you with the questions you have. Thank you for telling us your thoughts. You will help other kids who have been adopted who wonder about the same things, and I am sure that makes your birth Mom and your Mommy proud!
Hi Zoe,
ReplyDeleteIt's me again. It must be hard for you to not know any answers or even have a hint about what the answers might be, huh?
When I went to Taiwan, during one of my last weeks, I remember sitting beside my mama and I asked her, "While I was growing up, did you miss me?"
And she said "I hoped you would come back."
Now, I know my mama isn't your mama. But I would think that it's very, very likely she has never forgotten you and keeps praying that one day she might see your face and hear your voice.
You never know.
Hi Zoe!
ReplyDeleteYes I used to feel that way all the time, I know just what you're talking about.
I always kept writing about adoption and my feelings and that helped me a lot. I'm really happy you're writing. I don't have any advice other than if you discover that blogging helps please keep it up!
Zoe,
ReplyDeleteWelcome to the world of blogging. I am so glad you have joined us.
Since I am not an adoptee, I know I can't completely understand your hopes and wishes.
But as a first mom who's oldest son was adopted when he was just a little baby, I can tell you, from my side, we never stop thinking of or loving our children, no matter where in the world they might be.
I hope we hear more from you as your voice is such an important one and you do so well in your writing.
My best to you and keep up the good work.
Thanks for commenting. I liked hearing from the first moms and the adult adoptees. If I can think of anything else about adoption I will keep posting it.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Zoe
Hi Zoe,
ReplyDeleteIt's me, Eden. I understand how hard it is to deal with not knowing who your birth parents are. I even have a hard time dealing with it. But you have to think about your American family and how much you love them too. On my "Adoption Day" my parents and I light a red candle in for my birth parents. It doesn't really get a lot easier, but you just have to thank them and never forget about them.