tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post7650633261869845628..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: The "Gift Child" in International Adoptionmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-63003366935746780222009-12-06T10:49:33.448-06:002009-12-06T10:49:33.448-06:00Once again I appreciate your research abilities a...Once again I appreciate your research abilities and thank you.<br /><br />Viewing an adopted child as a gift - or as some do a gift from God (gag!) is very much akin to calling an adopted child "chosen" in that both are ichy and sugar coat the reality that for adoption joy there is a tragedy and a loss. <br /><br />In feminism, interestingly enough, there is a concept of theory known as "gifting economy." I did a wee bit of research on it before presenting at the ARM (feminist) conference in Toronto to see how it applies to adoption.<br /><br />In an article by Susan Petrilli and Allison V. Scott I further found the phrase: “forced giving” which seemed to describe the adoption from the perspective of the relinquishing mother who is convinced that it is unselfish and loving to give away their child to others who are more deserving. <br /><br />I was grateful that when I connected with my daughter' adoptive family they never thanked me for their "gift" because I would have had to bite my tongue trough and through to keep from telling them that that she my loss, not their gift.AdoptAuthorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15259177027389587604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-5250885871101197842009-12-04T18:46:41.684-06:002009-12-04T18:46:41.684-06:00"However freestanding the child is "made..."However freestanding the child is "made" by adoption law, he or she can never be free of the "implicate field of persons" in which he or she was constituted as legally adoptable."<br /><br />This is a brilliant statement.Mei-Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com