tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post688937889766224790..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Useful or Creepy?malindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-42751050532639184862010-06-28T13:12:31.194-05:002010-06-28T13:12:31.194-05:00Ugh, horrible. And likely not very accurate. So ma...Ugh, horrible. And likely not very accurate. So many kids I know look like a virtual clone of one of their parents, with maybe a hint of the other. Very few appear to be an equal blend of both mother and father. This service can't be anywhere close to accurate. You are paying for a guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-32062074023263135582010-06-25T14:16:59.030-05:002010-06-25T14:16:59.030-05:00I just wonder how realistic it is. It seems imposs...I just wonder how realistic it is. It seems impossible. <br /><br />I'd like to send my own baby picture to see if they can predict either what I look like now or what my parents look like. (I was not adopted, so I could see how close they get.) <br /><br />Deep down I know it's a scam, and I don't want to send them hundreds of dollars to try it out. But it's hard not to be curious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-43074695035365180412010-06-24T21:34:55.165-05:002010-06-24T21:34:55.165-05:00Uh, that is freaking nuts. (I prefer to get right...Uh, that is freaking nuts. (I prefer to get right to the point...ha ha). But in case that wasn't blaringly clear...no way in freaking heck would I ever have that done for my child. If she wants to go down that road as an adult, more power to her but, I'm not gonna be part of that magical mystery tour (that's not so magical).<br />M.Mahmeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13389550318044470734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-44558756626769481582010-06-23T22:22:33.863-05:002010-06-23T22:22:33.863-05:00While it would be completely inappropriate to pres...While it would be completely inappropriate to present a child with Photoshopped "baby pictures" or "photos of birth parents," I don't think that an adult who sought out such photos as part of her own grieving process was automatically creepy. <br /><br />It would depend on the situation, and what the photos represented to that person. This is especially true of someone who has little to no chance of meeting her birth parents. It might sometimes be helpful to have a visual representation of what they may look like, no matter how speculative or unrealistic. <br /><br />I can also see how an age-regressed photo could be a nice thing to have for someone (again, an adult) with no other baby pictures. <br /><br />Grief causes people to do things that may seem creepy or hard to understand. If a grown person who is fully aware of the problems with and limitations of these images finds some comfort in them, I don't think I could judge.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-26040855332445265022010-06-23T08:26:34.272-05:002010-06-23T08:26:34.272-05:00Definitely creepy. In a way, I think it negates th...Definitely creepy. In a way, I think it negates the real, live parents that are out there (and who probably don't bear any resemblance to the composites anyway).Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339148870059085581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-20484386573824734382010-06-23T08:25:07.898-05:002010-06-23T08:25:07.898-05:00Aside from CREEPY with a capital C, there is nothi...Aside from CREEPY with a capital C, there is nothing forensic about those photoshopped photos on the site. On top of, if you are going to try to reconstruct what parents may have looked like, I severely doubt the poverty stricken people of my daughter's homeland would be wearing suits and other western clothing. There is nothing normal about this.Lost and Foundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355735805187740437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-51672426973073300262010-06-22T23:15:38.575-05:002010-06-22T23:15:38.575-05:00Another vote for creepy. I'm tempted to send i...Another vote for creepy. I'm tempted to send in my photo and see if they can 'get' either my parents or my baby pictures. But NO no no for my girls.Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10383760837701581819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-21476110796154565442010-06-22T21:12:54.391-05:002010-06-22T21:12:54.391-05:00I don't see how it can really work- sometimes ...I don't see how it can really work- sometimes kids look like grandparents- I don't look like my parents at all- so not only creepy but possibly not even realistic. If it worked that way, wouldn't siblings all look alike? Doesn't make sense.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07997045949439915724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-71615331726930374122010-06-22T20:49:47.806-05:002010-06-22T20:49:47.806-05:00ETA: Can't "try" it without contacti...ETA: Can't "try" it without contacting... just realized that.<br /><br />So my overall comment... no. Just no.Mei Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-57003232307943264892010-06-22T20:47:52.842-05:002010-06-22T20:47:52.842-05:00Creepy, man. Just creepy. Once they see that image...Creepy, man. Just creepy. Once they see that image, it'll get stuck in their minds as what the reality "should be", and that wouldn't be right.<br /><br />*is going to check it out to see how it works...*Mei Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-43359445266615099992010-06-22T20:22:13.048-05:002010-06-22T20:22:13.048-05:00This makes me feel sick to my stomach. I vote very...This makes me feel sick to my stomach. I vote very creepy.<br /><br />What will society dream up next to replace biological families?<br /><br />I am tempted to send in a picture of my daughter and see what they would sketch me as.<br /><br />This really sickens me on so many levels.<br /><br />Another way to make money off of adoption, another way to eff up our children, another way to try to fix the damage adoption does...<br /><br />bleck.suzhttp://writingmywrongs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-74801522174356690272010-06-22T20:16:04.186-05:002010-06-22T20:16:04.186-05:00CREEPY. Definitely. I am also concerned that some ...CREEPY. Definitely. I am also concerned that some adoptive parents might use this (unintentionally or, less scrupulously, intentionally) to fuel misinformation to the adoptee. There is more than enough of that in the adoption world without adding to it.<br /><br />If I'd been presented with something like this as a child I definitely would have internalized it and felt upset when later information disproved it. I was chatting with a fellow adoptee the other day about how frustrating it is trying to get your information. You think you know something and come to terms with it emotionally, then you find out some social worker or agency made a mistake (again, intentional or not) then you have to repeat the whole process all over again. After a few rounds of that you start to distrust ALL information. I can see how an adoptee would feel incredibly betrayed by generated photographs like this even if it was explained that the photographs are simply a possible likeness.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-49149155326902654882010-06-22T20:02:53.797-05:002010-06-22T20:02:53.797-05:00This is not a service I would use. Children who vi...This is not a service I would use. Children who view the world very literally like mine would view these composites as the true-life representation of b-parents, which could be very confusing. We have always provided our daughter with full disclosure about her adoption and abandonment but this is different, these photos are a just someone's representation not factual information.Michele in ATLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-51761766585391219422010-06-22T18:58:19.412-05:002010-06-22T18:58:19.412-05:00You're right it's dangerous and potentiall...You're right it's dangerous and potentially damaging.We have enough problems imagining our parents and if we're lucky seeing photos or eventually meeting.To be someone without those chances given an invented image is like being given another identity which isn't really us.Creepy for adults too.Vote..NoVonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-6332093116650834172010-06-22T18:01:01.267-05:002010-06-22T18:01:01.267-05:00I think for an adult this may offer some interest....I think for an adult this may offer some interest. I wouldn't purchase this for my child for all of the same reasons Malinda suggested, but I can see how this might be of interest to an adult who understands that these are possibilities. A lot of people like to create composites of what their children might look like, why not the reverse?travelmom and morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15120395106521653130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-2242631607144237322010-06-22T17:44:06.219-05:002010-06-22T17:44:06.219-05:00You are right on, the child will fixate on those p...You are right on, the child will fixate on those photos and think they are the real thing even if only subconsiously. What happens when they really meet them? How do they reconcile the two? <br /><br />I agree that advanced the age of a missing child is one thing, trying to create possible birth parents or baby photos makes no sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-81429134332821736072010-06-22T17:38:09.481-05:002010-06-22T17:38:09.481-05:00Creepy. Definitely creepy.Creepy. Definitely creepy.a Tonggu Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365812914466181060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-27637823770644676322010-06-22T16:48:36.438-05:002010-06-22T16:48:36.438-05:00No. And I vote creepy.No. And I vote creepy.everythingismeowsomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671155513531459483noreply@blogger.com