tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post6061424476381765189..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Reactions to "Find My Family?"malindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-47160850513193402002009-11-26T20:16:51.048-06:002009-11-26T20:16:51.048-06:00Er, Malinda... could you please correct the follow...Er, Malinda... could you please correct the following:<br /><br />"I mean, I can understand perhaps do it for the politically cautious people, but it shouldn't be necessarily to have to say "I want to search for my other mother, but you will always be my true -mom-.""<br /><br />To:<br /><br />"I mean, I can understand perhaps doing it for the politically cautious crowd, but it shouldn't be necessary to have to say "I want to search for my other mother, but you will always be my true -mom-." "<br /><br />And please remove this extra comment. Sorry, my fingers just aren't connecting with my brain tonight.Mei-Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-2174213083385773202009-11-26T20:15:06.568-06:002009-11-26T20:15:06.568-06:00"he would always love his adoptive parents be..."he would always love his adoptive parents because they were the ones who raised him and they were his parents"<br /><br />Anything that highlights birth families should automatically require a disclaimer that the adoptive families are the most loving ones, or something?<br /><br />Why is a disclaimer always needed to "protect" people?<br /><br />I mean, I can understand perhaps do it for the politically cautious people, but it shouldn't be necessarily to have to say "I want to search for my other mother, but you will always be my true -mom-."<br /><br />Okay, adoptive parents are human; they have feelings and emotions too. But why does it always seem they have to come first?<br /><br />That puts the role of caretaker onto the child, IMO. This is also covered in the anthology "Outsiders Within."<br /><br />If the relationship between the adoptive parent & child is secure and loving enough... shouldn't the search be able to occur without the standard disclaimers?Mei-Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-20915415860465361462009-11-26T09:47:10.081-06:002009-11-26T09:47:10.081-06:00I watched the show and I liked it, even with all t...I watched the show and I liked it, even with all the cheesy moments, like the family tree. Yes, I teared up as well. What was interesting was my 6 year old, adopted from China, who wants nothing to do with anything Chinese, who never wants to talk about China or her birth family despite my trying to give her openings....well, she crawled up next to me and watched the show and didn't say a word (she is usually VERY talkative.) I wasn't planning on her watching the show; I actually thought she was probably too young to understand it. But she walked into my bedroom right when the show started ans asked what I was watching. I gave a brief description and she choose to sit and watch it with me. At that point, I wasn't going to make a big deal and ask her to leave the room. But I do wonder what was going on in that little 6 year old brain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-29736487486780966262009-11-26T00:53:15.371-06:002009-11-26T00:53:15.371-06:00I just watched the episode on hulu.com. Was teary ...I just watched the episode on hulu.com. Was teary eyed throughout. Overall I'd rate it as fairly well done - for these two families and the daughter they share. Having the birth family meet at "the Family Tree" (which isn't in Wisconsin) was idiotic, tho. As were the repeated enjoinders to "Find Your Family". From the opening commentary and the photo montage of future episodes, it does seem that they'll be focusing on the "happy ending" type of reunions. I give this first episode a "B".Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04966488931791705010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-22275181190088714942009-11-25T16:46:31.946-06:002009-11-25T16:46:31.946-06:00I didn't see it and am not likely to because f...I didn't see it and am not likely to because for one I just don't have time to watch much television and for two reality tv is my least favorite kind. So it's not the adoption topic so much as those other two things. But I'm not sure how it's different than reunion talk shows and stuff except for the prime time. I could care how they portray adoptive families though since this particular story isn't about adoptive families. We're important backstory but just backstory.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-53841047771622180952009-11-25T11:43:27.590-06:002009-11-25T11:43:27.590-06:00As an adoptive parent, I was concerned about how t...As an adoptive parent, I was concerned about how this show would portray adoptive families. My concern was that they may lessen the value/importance of the adoptive families to the adoptee because the promos for this show seemed to indicate that all adoptees want and need to be reunited with "their families" as if the adoptive family is not their family. I was happy to see that from the very beginning the host pointed out that as an adoptee, he would always love his adoptive parents because they were the ones who raised him and they were his parents and I think the adoptee who was featured in the show as well as the bio parents did a good job of making a point that the adoptive parents are the adoptees parents.<br /><br />My daughter is too young now to understand any of this, but it made me think about the feelings or thoughts she may have as she gets older and the feelings or thoughts her bio parents may have experienced in giving her up.<br /><br />I did think the "Family Tree" was a bit much and I do hope that the show shows that not all reunions are wanted or happy. Only time will tell if this show will be worth watching, but truthfully, I was pleasantly surprised at how the first episode was handled.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-7368303683544132072009-11-25T06:48:07.102-06:002009-11-25T06:48:07.102-06:00I responded here.I responded <a href="http://atlasien.blogspot.com/2009/11/search-and-reunion-thoughts-on-future.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>.atlasienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07242606440109684169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-76855029871978832702009-11-25T06:03:26.424-06:002009-11-25T06:03:26.424-06:00I knew I could count on you to post about this sho...I knew I could count on you to post about this show!:-) I was not able to watch it - but plan to do so online soon.<br /><br />My "beef" with the show starts in the description:<br />"Each episode is full of moving moments and tears of joy, when mothers, fathers, daughters and sons who lost touch for decades are reunited...When a family is reunited, they all meet at the Find My Family “Family Tree.”<br /><br />So what about the dead-end searches? Or ones that do NOT lead to a "happy reunion"? Only showing the joyful side perpetuates the utopian side, when not all search stories end up with a happily-ever-after.<br /><br />And meeting at the "Family Tree"? Oh, please. That is a cheesy, outdated metaphor at best.<br /><br />So, as you can see - I will be watching the program online with a bit of caution and skepticism...JennyBHammondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07145326313538685909noreply@blogger.com