tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post5971867021715393327..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Really, Really, Really Sad About My Birth Parentsmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-38471736536969958542010-03-14T10:01:55.466-05:002010-03-14T10:01:55.466-05:00Zoe,
I missed mine too! I had a stuffed animal -...Zoe,<br /><br />I missed mine too! I had a stuffed animal - a dog with long floppy ears that was my compainion when I was sad - many tears soaked his coat - sometimes I hugged that dog for a long time and other times after a bit I would go find my dad. Dad never said much but always let me help him and taught me about what he was doing - dad had a way about him that soothed my soul and made my day better and could do it without words. I hope you find what works for you.Sandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-51636169052746946842010-03-14T00:54:25.407-06:002010-03-14T00:54:25.407-06:00Thanks for sharing :)
For myself - I've felt ...Thanks for sharing :)<br /><br />For myself - I've felt curious, and I might have felt the intense sadness it sounds like you're experiencing - but the fact that I'm not quite sure seems to point out that I moved on, or at least reached some kind of peace. This poem I wrote about thinking about my birth parents (mother, specifically) might interest you: http://meiayao.blogspot.com/2010/01/poem.html<br /><br />Something else I wrote about searching for birth parents, which I don't know would apply to your situation, but that is sort of a perspective from the other end of the spectrum (which might either cheer you up or amaze you that someone could be so casual about the subject!) is here: http://meiayao.blogspot.com/2010/01/mania-regarding-birth-parent-searches.htmlMeiahttp://meiayao.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-4650465076593710732010-03-13T18:25:16.998-06:002010-03-13T18:25:16.998-06:00Yes I do think of them every day but I don't r...Yes I do think of them every day but I don't really miss them.I know my mother thought about me every day, they've both been ded a while now.<br />Loss has a way of coming back to us when we experience further loss.<br />I take Bach Flower Remedies which help a lot.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-4908755021946266912010-03-13T18:14:49.133-06:002010-03-13T18:14:49.133-06:00Sometimes I feel better when I give my sadness, fe...Sometimes I feel better when I give my sadness, fears or worries to God. I remember that God can take care of things that I cannot handle. I hope your grandpa gets better soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-84544519641610536092010-03-13T17:35:26.833-06:002010-03-13T17:35:26.833-06:00Hi Zoe,
I also think about my birth parents and ge...Hi Zoe,<br />I also think about my birth parents and get really sad. When this happens, I have to wait until the sadness goes away on it's own, and although it always comes back, if I write down my feelings, read a favorite book, talk to someone who understands or get a hug (or sometimes lots of hugs), it's easier for me to get through. It doesn't make the sadness go away but it helps me.Katherine S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15995402078280495338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-56979251973131731872010-03-13T15:09:29.435-06:002010-03-13T15:09:29.435-06:00"Everyday it seems I just really, really, rea..."Everyday it seems I just really, really, really, really, really, really miss or want my birth parents. What about you?"<br /><br />You already know a bit of my story, don't you?<br /><br />So to answer you, Zoe, yes, I do think about my parents every day. And I do miss them a lot.<br /><br />I remember that feeling when I was little... knowing there were two people out in the world who had given birth to me but still gave me up. It was hard.<br /><br />It must be so difficult to try and understand, especially at your age.Mei Linghttp://sisterheping.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-46071631819972612822010-03-13T15:07:03.691-06:002010-03-13T15:07:03.691-06:00Lorraine,
I cannot imagine any child does not, th...Lorraine,<br /><br />I cannot imagine any child does not, they may not have the words or may not have the opportunity of open conversation due to their parents views of adoption or just a lack of trust.<br /><br />My daughter thinks of hers and verbalizes her feelings, she goes through all range of emotions in relation to her first family--she chooses the term birth family at this point. As you can see, she had mixed emotions when she met them, still does on many levels, but forgets them--Never.Jeff and Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330454830153579449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-49857242010694096032010-03-13T14:19:20.487-06:002010-03-13T14:19:20.487-06:00Dear Malinda:
Thank you for this post from Zoe. W...Dear Malinda:<br /><br />Thank you for this post from Zoe. We first moms wonder...do they think about us? I love your courage in facing the issues. Keep up the honest work. <br /><br />Lorraine from <br /><br /><a href="http://www.firstmotherforum.com/" rel="nofollow">Birth Mother, First Mother Forum </a>Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-51500834246613091112010-03-13T11:29:06.184-06:002010-03-13T11:29:06.184-06:00I know how you feel. I miss my birth family too. b...I know how you feel. I miss my birth family too. becase their in China and I met my birth family and when I met my birth family I was scared and happy when I met my birth family.<br /><br />From MadelineJeff and Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330454830153579449noreply@blogger.com