tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post5508354765286434501..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Another Celebrity Adoption: Jean Smartmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-31170123317873092212010-01-13T09:35:59.614-06:002010-01-13T09:35:59.614-06:00Whenever someone dares to post about older age, pe...Whenever someone dares to post about older age, people start getting defensive. (Just try posting about this on another forum. Oy.) I don't get it. At 58 she should have been considering adopting an older child.<br /><br />Seriously, anon, you must not be around kids much because trust me, as a teacher, children are judgemental! Although the child might not care when s/he is young, when the parent isn't arouund very long into adulthood, they might have some pretty strong feelings about having elder adoptive parents.<br /><br />Wendy, you are spot on. We have an ethical responsibility to question how old is too old and other practices as a receiving country. Since most agencies do not do it,($$) it leaves it up to the AP's to ask these difficult questions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-18898709724429929662010-01-12T13:35:15.849-06:002010-01-12T13:35:15.849-06:00We are talking about the best interest of children...We are talking about the best interest of children; therefore, in some form judgement is necessary. It will only be adoptees and ap's in international adoption (as far as receiving) that will make the call to end practices that are not in the best interest of the child. How old do you really feel these people are going to live to be? I know there are no guarantees with young parents, BUT China has stipulated health issues with PAP's, perhaps age needs to be revisited. Caring for aging parents is hard enough for those with teens or adult children, how about being a child yourself.<br />anon--btw-you calling judgmental is also judging.Jeff and Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330454830153579449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-63139429633119743412010-01-12T13:09:36.919-06:002010-01-12T13:09:36.919-06:00Just have to say WOW to some of the comments:( WOW...Just have to say WOW to some of the comments:( WOW!! Thankful, so very thankful, it seems to me, that children are far less judgemental than adults.(I use this word loosely)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-32256908569537555902010-01-12T13:01:58.223-06:002010-01-12T13:01:58.223-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jeff and Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330454830153579449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-25818192615706132332010-01-12T13:01:51.407-06:002010-01-12T13:01:51.407-06:00It should be referred to as grandparenting at that...It should be referred to as grandparenting at that age. I thought there had to be a max of 55 age difference, she should have been referred a three year old (which is still an issue of MUCH older parents). Maybe the cutoff should be that of biology w/o the aid of a doctor's hands.Jeff and Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330454830153579449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-24923904860700095742010-01-12T10:43:01.137-06:002010-01-12T10:43:01.137-06:00Is 58 years old parenting an infant in the best in...Is 58 years old parenting an infant in the best interest of the child? (or is the infant just "lucky"). <br /><br />I'm glad China changed their policy about 55 years being max, but with the long, long wait people are only going to get older (and they are probably the ones least likely to drop out since their options are limited.)<br /><br />It just seems like such a sense of entitlement instead of what is best for the child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-45050893467570787122010-01-12T08:52:43.182-06:002010-01-12T08:52:43.182-06:00That's cool. I didn't know Jean Smart had ...That's cool. I didn't know Jean Smart had adopted from China. I always loved her character "Charlene" on Designing Women. LOLredkitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12282381856203272284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-75129261864195388322010-01-12T08:43:54.101-06:002010-01-12T08:43:54.101-06:00I'm always curious about these celebrity adopt...I'm always curious about these celebrity adoptions, too. I imagine that China doesn't know a celebrity from a non-celebrity because they dont care about drawing attention to the practice.<br /><br />(Organizations working in Africa seem to be different.)<br /><br />My non-profit recently published a new book on Chinese adoptive parenting. <br /><br />“The Dragon Sisterhood: A Guide to Chinese Adoptive Parenting” . <br /><br />It can be found on our blog:http://www.dragonsisterhood.blogspot.com <br /><br />I’m wondering if you wouldn’t mind sharing that with your readers.<br /><br />Thanks!Beckett GrayBeckett Franklin Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17997490546989386061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-21622323054245994272010-01-12T08:36:00.785-06:002010-01-12T08:36:00.785-06:00I thought the same thing (special treatment) when ...I thought the same thing (special treatment) when I saw her age, but then realized she must have been the right age when her dossier was logged in.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08160632932556732439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-18194751685422315922010-01-12T06:42:15.578-06:002010-01-12T06:42:15.578-06:00Problem solved! Thanks, Maia!Problem solved! Thanks, Maia!malindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-6777237468933438372010-01-12T06:25:46.409-06:002010-01-12T06:25:46.409-06:00But she only had to be 55 at the time she logged i...But she only had to be 55 at the time she logged in, - which, considering the wait these days, could easily have been three or more years ago.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11174671099436752890noreply@blogger.com