tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post5493359585166747308..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: The Circle is Brokenmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-83511551952789647912012-04-12T22:12:42.148-05:002012-04-12T22:12:42.148-05:00Great post!Great post!Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-72187821511639895182012-04-11T19:37:02.782-05:002012-04-11T19:37:02.782-05:00Agree or disagree with viewpoints, I think calling...Agree or disagree with viewpoints, I think calling it censorship is a bit strong. Circle of Moms is for public viewing but they really do get to decide what kind of blog they want to promote. IMO, censorship would be if blogger.com were to dictate that she cannot blog about her own life, the way she chooses to. Censorship is not whether or not an online "magazine" chooses to give her blog attention. <br />Frankly, I think the circle of moms contest is a bit of a joke, anyway. It's all about how many times you can get someone to click on your blog per month. IF someone could only vote ONCE, then THAT would be a contest for the best. But the way it is now, it's more of a contest to find out how many people have the contest set to their favorites, and do their ritual clicking. I never quite understood how that makes for the best blog, or cutest child, or anything else where there are the "most clicks" by the same people daily.Family Bitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05921264889019357773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-48831017058895271742012-04-11T18:37:02.646-05:002012-04-11T18:37:02.646-05:00zhou.and.mc,
I tried to respond here but I think ...zhou.and.mc,<br /><br />I tried to respond here but I think it's better I write a blog post instead about some of the things I would like to say. I do understand though that I don't speak the truth for everyone, that is one of the reasons the title of my blog states, "My Life . . . My Experience . . . My Truth." I also know that some of the things I write isn't easy to read. Many times it's hard to write them as well. <br /><br />Malinda - Thank you so much for this. I don't have the words to tell you how touched I have been these last few days with all the wonderful support and love I have received. I'm glad you stayed in the contest. I think it means much more if the blogs stay and we continue to vote instead of allowing what happened to silence anybody else or turn others away from supporting the blogs they believe in.Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-16415093538664515212012-04-11T18:34:40.955-05:002012-04-11T18:34:40.955-05:00I love your Blog Malinda. I love the positive and ...I love your Blog Malinda. I love the positive and negative because it's balanced and truthful. <br /><br />This is one of the first posts i have read anywhere online that talks about this. Thank goodness someone is brave enough to post about reality! <br /><br />Thank you for reality.<br />WE have enough red thread fairy tales. We need the truth. <br /><br />You are not anti-adoption. But there are quite a few people out there who want to stay in denial. <br /><br />Thank you for your blog and keep posting. <br /><br />KristenKristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04681284350991878565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-32118180072567332292012-04-11T12:13:01.217-05:002012-04-11T12:13:01.217-05:00Zhou that is great! Do you mind sharing which agen...Zhou that is great! Do you mind sharing which agencies. Maybe things are changing in the past couple of years since we adopted our youngest child. <br /><br />I have worked with two different adoption agencies and know several people who worked with other adoption agencies and it was not suggested that we talk with adoptees-- most books suggested barely scratched the surface of adoption-- similar for the websites.<br /><br />Our SW, not affiliated with any adoption agency, is pretty liberal minded and ethical, IMO. An example, she quit working with adoptions of domestic newbornes because she feels there is still too much coercion taking place.<br /><br />She provided us with some, but limited, info that portrayed more of the not so rosy aspects of adoption. We remain in touch and I often forward to her information and viewpoints I find that are written by adoptees and birthmoms who describe their grief. She has indicated that she is "thinking about" sharing some of this material with PAPs.<br /><br />A couple of adult adoptees whom I know personally have two very different viewpoints of adoption. <br /><br />Is there ever just "one" viewpoint to anything in life?<br /><br />Best,Reenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07119020258638171080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-43097795515302347282012-04-11T11:45:28.309-05:002012-04-11T11:45:28.309-05:00I completely disagree. I meant that the negative ...I completely disagree. I meant that the negative truth of adoption for one person is not negative for another. I know adoptees who adopted because their life experience has been so positive (that does not mean they did not have to struggle with being adopted). <br /><br />I do not believe it needs to be all happy happy rosy rosy - that is not life for anyone I know - adopted or not. I think both sides need to be presented. I think both sides are presented by many adoption agencies. <br /><br />My agency encouraged us to speak with others who had adopted, take classes on attachment, speak with adoptees, read about adoption, read websites, etc. I knew it was not all rosy but nothing in life is. My friends who worked with other agencies were also encouraged to learn all the could about adoption. <br /><br />I disagree there is one viewpoint.zhou.and.mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03711803122054168160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-15765056921816851332012-04-11T10:26:23.973-05:002012-04-11T10:26:23.973-05:00I think what most bloggers post is 'their'...I think what most bloggers post is 'their' truth-- which isn't the truth for everyone. Isn't that a main point of blogging?<br /><br />I think what Cassi posts on her blog is the truth for too many women/mothers/adoptees/people. I don't view her posts as negative so much as being sad and shameful. <br /><br />Her story and the story of too many other mothers and adoptees are sad and it is shameful that our society has perpetuated these situations. Given the amount of information there is about adoption- from ALL triad members-- why is it that only the rosy, happy-happy is relayed to PAP? <br /><br />Really, how many other APs and PAPs are there out there whose adoption agency and/or SW directed you or encouraged you to read about adoption from more than one viewpoint?<br /><br />Why is that?Reenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07119020258638171080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-16201771207337051402012-04-11T09:15:51.042-05:002012-04-11T09:15:51.042-05:00I think what Cassi posts is her truth but that doe...I think what Cassi posts is her truth but that does not mean it is the truth. I think that is true for all of us. I view it has very negative but it has made me think and I have needed to think. <br />Adoption is complex.zhou.and.mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03711803122054168160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-29672004156687612272012-04-11T08:52:50.691-05:002012-04-11T08:52:50.691-05:00I voted for you and all the other HONEST bloggers,...I voted for you and all the other HONEST bloggers, like the ones you listed. Honesty is not always supportive and positive, but it is REAL.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-42329478539600240752012-04-10T22:29:20.188-05:002012-04-10T22:29:20.188-05:00Good grief- The three posts I listed in my Circle...Good grief- The three posts I listed in my Circle profile- one is about white privilege, one is about racism and Disney and the other is sort of a sunny adoption post with a lot of actual truth mixed in- hope they don't read them- they might come get me next. <br /><br />Hoping everyone who blogs about issues and not just sunshine and roses makes the top 25Momma Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04061521729885141245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-18348135180254113652012-04-10T21:23:52.475-05:002012-04-10T21:23:52.475-05:00Im glad you are not leaving. My first reaction was...Im glad you are not leaving. My first reaction was to say, "I hope all my friends withdraw from this joke of a contest". But, people voted for you because they respect you and enjoy your blog and their votes should count. Unlike the people who voted for Cassi...so unfair. Im so angry with whomever made that ridiculous decision.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com