tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post5268333004442720307..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Take Out?!malindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-33790901855865019052009-08-23T21:50:34.881-05:002009-08-23T21:50:34.881-05:00I think you need to ask the queen of adoption humo...I think you need to ask the queen of adoption humour, Marley Grenier. Who else would post an *original birth certificate* courtesy the Republic of Kenya Birth Certificate Generator and then declare herself a Romanoff? <br /><br />http://tiny.cc/6pYIO<br /><br />You're just not going to get through this stuff without a major dose of humour--sick, delirious, ha ha, slapstick, sad, sane, insane, inappropriate, etc. <br /><br />It's important never to belittle your kid or his or her family. That's where some jokes are an issue. That is not so much humour as a way to describe something you're uncomfortable with. In these situations, I believe in letting the world feel uncomfortable, but never the child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-42572843678891088622009-08-23T07:57:44.185-05:002009-08-23T07:57:44.185-05:00I have two bio boys and two adopted daughters from...I have two bio boys and two adopted daughters from China. I often get asked all of those nosy questions/comments regarding my daughters. When I am asked if my chidlren are adopted my response is, "Yes, but I don't remember which ones." I hope it sends across the message that my children are all the same to me, my children.Beach Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16560715678217218938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-48083074908908174962009-08-22T14:24:48.378-05:002009-08-22T14:24:48.378-05:00I agree 100%! Some "jokes" are not real...I agree 100%! Some "jokes" are not really "jokes" but mean attacks disguised as humor.<br /><br /> I would take it a step further to say that any "cute joke" that attacks one's sense of self, whether bio or adopted, is inappropriate. Like, for example, saying in a joking fashion that a child who is overweight takes after her mother. <br />Or "funny" remarks about the red-headed child's temper. Or the old "tough it up" jokes for the hurt and crying child. The latter sends a message that his feelings are not important.<br /><br />The "you are adopted" to a bio child (as if it's leprosy) obviously comes from families who have not adopted. That doesn't make it less painful if (when) our children come across the comment.Lisanoreply@blogger.com