tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post4438154909082834673..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Student Guest Post: Adopting Through the Statemalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-23796138950191477412011-04-16T13:26:49.133-05:002011-04-16T13:26:49.133-05:00We our in a different state, but went through a si...We our in a different state, but went through a similar process. We ended up not adopting through the state. Highly discouraging, indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-75608978054633336062011-04-16T00:40:06.876-05:002011-04-16T00:40:06.876-05:00if you don't mind me asking, how old is the ch...if you don't mind me asking, how old is the child you are adopting? I commend you on adopting an older child, but I can speak from experience that the older the child, the more they have been exposed to, and the more help, whether it's counseling, or attention they may need. I know it's not the case for all of them. if I could give you any advice, it would be to make sure and get them involved in activities like sports or something, it's a good outlet and a way for them to feel like they ate part of something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-49399589765070574782011-04-15T23:11:48.171-05:002011-04-15T23:11:48.171-05:00Three kids in one room? Even when you rent, you ar...Three kids in one room? Even when you rent, you are only allowed a maximum of two people per room. It doesn't seem like the "screening process" was that rigorous as far as inspection from the social worker goes. And kudos for adopting an older child. I understand why many couples want to adopt babies, but, like you said, there are so many other kids out there that need good homes.CherylSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-30357541158116930142011-04-14T21:38:31.859-05:002011-04-14T21:38:31.859-05:00We paid a private agency and got about the same re...We paid a private agency and got about the same response - after we finished our application and were one visit away from complete homestudy, they called and told use we would not find the child we were looking for. They had the child description wrong. They also said that we needed to look for 3 children and had to foster the children before we could consider adoption. We were pretty discouraged with our attempts at domestic adoption - as they said the social workers pick the parents and as older parents we realized we would never get picked.bytheriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086511271884000240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-77808654911983555582011-04-14T18:35:09.308-05:002011-04-14T18:35:09.308-05:00Not nearly as rough a time as the kids hey? Of cou...Not nearly as rough a time as the kids hey? Of course those kids know what they're there for, it's humiliating, demeaning and appalling.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-25306632660623962442011-04-14T12:18:48.522-05:002011-04-14T12:18:48.522-05:00I'm very sorry your family had a rough go at i...I'm very sorry your family had a rough go at it! <br /><br />It seems that depending on who one's assigned SW is, will fortell how the rest of the process will go. <br /><br />I do believe that if one isn't stubborn or has worked in some kind of system (e.g. public schools, special ed. within public schools) that the process itself turns people away. It's a shame because I'm sure some families would be excellent families for children needing a home. <br /><br />it's also good to note that every state is different as well. My daughter was placed as a low legal risk placement, but she was still a foster child before adoption. Some county judges in different states will not terminate parental rights until a child is in a home with a foster license that is willing and able to be an adoptive resource if that is how the judge rules. <br /><br />Thank you for your post.DannieAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13085318956074927357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-26672231262649331192011-04-14T09:25:23.395-05:002011-04-14T09:25:23.395-05:00Thank you for this post. Your experience mirrors ...Thank you for this post. Your experience mirrors that of many other families who have tried/are trying to navigate the state system, and explains why some choose international adoption. <br /><br />Wishing you good luck!Jessicahttp://www.mamalitathebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-88793211326097622742011-04-14T08:47:24.240-05:002011-04-14T08:47:24.240-05:00Thank you, thank you, thank you for adopting an ol...Thank you, thank you, thank you for adopting an older child. <br /> <br />The "matching parties" are a humiliating. And we mustn't kid ourselves. Those kids know EXACTLY what those events are for. <br /> <br />Your experience with the social worker who told you that three kids could easily fit into one room shows us another example of what is wrong with the system.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com