tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post4232161307187343762..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Boom-and-Bust Cycles in International Adoptionmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-28898332395098080772011-11-21T13:58:33.579-06:002011-11-21T13:58:33.579-06:00I really believe that there are two VERY DIFFERENT...I really believe that there are two VERY DIFFERENT kinds of adoption. One kind: parents (usually infertile) want a baby, any way any how. They don't want to deal with the mess of first mothers and families. They don't want to deal with the foster care system and its older, "messed up" children. They want a baby. Right now. And they will go anywhere, pay anything to get that baby. <br /><br />The second kind of adoption is child-centered, NOT parent-centered. Preserving first family and first culture are the first priorities. Unfortunately in some (perhaps even the minority!) of cases, this is not possible. See the special needs children spending their lives bedridden in Eastern European orphanages. They're the ones we should be talking about when we talk about whether or not adoption is sometimes "necessary" -- and only "necessary", mind, after they have been so utterly failed by the system.Leahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-29712665620841085882011-11-20T13:22:41.843-06:002011-11-20T13:22:41.843-06:00I have to agree with Anon.; how much "researc...I have to agree with Anon.; how much "research" and thought truly went into this article?<br /><br />Families flock to the countries with lax rules and "easy" access to babies?<br /><br />Yes, that must explain then why so many families continue to wait five now possibly 6 to 7 years for their Chinese adoptions. So easy....so accessible.<br /><br />And Kazakhstan? Was a 3 trip process at the end, with families staying in country upwards of 9 weeks or more. How easy is that? Simple as pie? Uh-huh.<br /><br />To presume when a country ceases adoption it becomes able to care for its own is also a fallacy. Having been to both Kaz. and Romania since their respective "closings" I can assure you that is far from accurate. Sadly so....<br /><br />Crystal clear about one thing though ~ the biased slant on this article.<br /><br />Ugh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-83917469712535417212011-11-18T14:26:45.023-06:002011-11-18T14:26:45.023-06:00"Boy, doesn't that signal the "real&..."Boy, doesn't that signal the "real" concern -- making sure babies are available for Americans to adopt? And here I thought adoption was about finding families for needy kids, not finding kids for wanting parents. . . ."<br /><br />Why does it have to be ONE or the OTHER? So, just curious, when you decided to adopt, did you decide by the fact that there was a child in need of a home, or did you wish to start a family? Be honest. <br /><br />And when someone DOES decide to adopt because they want a child to have a home, doesn't that get close to the scenario of "saving" a child, that most of us tend to shudder when we hear about?<br /><br />Just saying, those kinds of statements as quoted above are like walking on thin ice...<br /><br />As for the article, honestly, I'm so tried of articles that make APs look like greedy people who can throw money away and buy babies as if they were pieces of furniture. Frankly, it's insulting. A lot of thought went into our adoption process before we made the decision of adoption and from where we would adopt. To suggest otherwise makes it seem as if we saw our children as disposable. That could not be further from the truth. This article is insulting, to say the least.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-78231075872238860902011-11-18T10:51:46.753-06:002011-11-18T10:51:46.753-06:00I wish there had been a little more investigation ...I wish there had been a little more investigation of that last quote in your excerpt - is the need getting bigger? I have heard anecdotally that once an adoption program closes down, suddenly there is not as much "need" as there used to be.<br /><br />I also really dislike the focus here on babies...not every child who needs a home is a baby, and I think that is one of the issues that has to be part of any attempt at adoption reform.InventingLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08882590455596544329noreply@blogger.com