tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post3610439106903097481..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: In Utah, Birth Fathers Can't Win -- or Anywhere Else for That Mattermalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-87547708658344544462011-12-27T12:35:38.709-06:002011-12-27T12:35:38.709-06:00I think MOST times, the birth father has no say in...I think MOST times, the birth father has no say in much of anything. If a woman gets pregnant, SHE gets to decide if she wants to carry the child through to delivery or have an abortion. Birth fathers get no say in that. THEN if she carries the baby to full term, SHE gets to decide if she wants to stay with the birth father or drop him during the pregnancy. And if the birth father feels defeated, a lot of times he does not fight for visitation or custody, so then SHE gets child support, even if she NEVER allowed him to be involved in the pregnancy. <br />My husband had such a difficult time with his ex girlfriend standing in front of his visitation, that he gave up on visiting his son, and because of that, she was able to raise child support to the max. His son is now 18 years old, and he will not carry one memory of ever seeing my husband. All because his mother wanted as much child support as she could get at the time. <br />The courts have never really seen the birth father's side for some reason (especially if the couple was never married or lived together), without fighting for it, regardless of adoption, abortion, or being raised by the bio mother. Sad but true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-73208886146144553162011-12-27T11:28:01.028-06:002011-12-27T11:28:01.028-06:00Does Utah not understand that they're not only...Does Utah not understand that they're not only doing an enormous disservice to the biological father, but the child that they actually pretend to care about? Even if you don't believe that children are better off with their biological parents, you have to believe that they're better off not being fought over and potentially removed from the custody of the people who raised them. Or maybe that's the idea -- place the child for adoption and then argue to a judge that it would be unfair to the child and the adoptive parents.Gillianhttp://industry.cityofcomplications.comnoreply@blogger.com