tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post3503458177084640412..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Blogging About Talking About Adoptionmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-92190379373030648622010-05-18T11:22:50.918-05:002010-05-18T11:22:50.918-05:00My favorite story about talking about adoption wit...My favorite story about talking about adoption with kids is one I heard YEARS ago at a conference.<br /><br />Mother walk past her teen sons room and he's staring into the mirror (no doubt examining zits).<br /><br />She says: "I bet you wonder who you look like. I do."<br /><br />And walks away.<br /><br />No big, heavy duty, uncomfortable "talk" but opening the door and giving permission for the topic to be reopened without offending!<br /><br />Of course, such little opening might need to b repeated.<br /><br />I always thought that was one cool mom! <br /><br />I also suggest adoptive patents, especially of international or interracial kids should see the documentary "Adopted" which really shows the pain from the adoptees point of view when the subject is ignored. It's a hard film to watch. It's PAINFULLY real! <br /><br />Also "Language of Blood" and "Fugitive Visions" by Jane Jeong Trenka are very informative for the same reasons, as is the documentary "On The Fault Line" about 9 Vermont families who adopt interracially. <br /><br />All of these resources deal particularly with the challenges of being non-white in a white family and predominantly white school - or any school in which kids are teased for anything different.<br /><br />Finally, coincidentally (?) O Solo Mama blogged about the same thing today!Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-87464763649404845282010-05-18T10:28:28.584-05:002010-05-18T10:28:28.584-05:00I do wonder about adoptive parents that blog about...I do wonder about adoptive parents that blog about their kids. It's seems to be an invasion of their proivacy (even with their permission). I mean, they are just kids, so asking their opinion should not be the deciding factor... but I also understand that by blogging you are putting the conversation out there for others to learn from and think about. Tough call, indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-92189166949125905442010-05-18T00:13:22.620-05:002010-05-18T00:13:22.620-05:00Funny you wrote this post. I am putting together t...Funny you wrote this post. I am putting together the newsletter for our local adoption organization and I am including my favorite blog links. That includes Dawn and you! <br /><br />Would you mind writing up a little something for me to include in your blog description? <br /><br />Thanks,<br />Wendy (aco@peak.org)<br />http://adoptionconnectionsoforegon.org/Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585765386608759975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-28244971958099152912010-05-17T17:09:36.514-05:002010-05-17T17:09:36.514-05:00I thought of you when I got some of the critical c...I thought of you when I got some of the critical comments (most particularly from the woman who then asked me not to publish hers). I would love to hear more about your boundary decisions and how you balance it. I learn A LOT from your blog and am grateful you write and appreciate that you liked that post more than you can know! <br /><br />And because I am a talker and we are a talking family, I told my kids about the controversy and explained the opposing view and Madison was DEEPLY annoyed that anyone thinks I should not encourage her to blog or talk on my blog. Now she has been saying, "In my NEXT blog about adoption..." Then, too, someone linked to the post and quoted her and I told her this and she said, "I'm happy to help" and then said she is like Frasier because she helps people. Clearly this is not a child whose spirit has been broken, eh?Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.com