tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post3249913404504890716..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: What's Wrong With This Ad?malindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-9279833095301999452010-07-26T09:40:21.149-05:002010-07-26T09:40:21.149-05:00WACAP has been using this ad for a long time and i...WACAP has been using this ad for a long time and it bothers me every time I see it. My 8 yr old daughter from China knows that it cost a lot of money to adopt her younger sister from India, and has extrapolated that to herself and will say things about when I "bought" her, or when we "bought" her sister. She is very upset about her little sister, who is a very difficult child, and has asked me repeatedly to take her back to the orphanage - but then she cuts herself off and says that is not a good return on my investment! If she knew that I had found her sister from WACAP's photolisting booklet, aye caramba... I already do feel like I went shopping in a catalog and found the item that I liked the best and placed my order....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-59061620706943689672010-07-24T16:56:06.557-05:002010-07-24T16:56:06.557-05:00Anon, there are both right and wrong reasons to ad...Anon, there are both right and wrong reasons to adopt a child just as their are right and wrong reasons to conceive a child.<br /><br />In my opinion, the one, and only, reason there should be to adopt a child is to provide love and nurture to a child who is truly abandoned or truly orphaned, when all other options that might be more preferable (e.g. kinship adoption etc.) have been exhausted.<br /><br />I believe we should also work towards improving the sentiments against the poor and unwed mothers worldwide so that countries that need to will start to provide better support for their poor families instead of using orphanages to manage dependency--and thus reducing the amount of families and cultures separated by stigma and poverty.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-10098773764442059342010-07-24T16:45:59.038-05:002010-07-24T16:45:59.038-05:00It is so refreshing to come to your page--as a wom...It is so refreshing to come to your page--as a women who surrendered a child to adoption--and find that we agree on so much. If you think you find that ad disgusting and distasteful, imagine the reaction I'm having!<br /><br />thanks again. <br />Lorraine from <br /><br /><a href="http://www.firstmotherforum.com/" rel="nofollow">Birth Mother, First Mother Forum</a>Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-9311473592169125662010-07-24T16:44:21.874-05:002010-07-24T16:44:21.874-05:00I completely agree.
This ad promotes the egocentr...I completely agree.<br /><br />This ad promotes the egocentricity (and ethnocentricity) of the prospective adoptive family. This ad promotes a child coming to THEM to build THEIR family--not a family being found for the best interest of a child in need.<br /><br />Children first, adults last. That's what TRUE parenting is about.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-6505039233331476382010-07-24T14:07:11.368-05:002010-07-24T14:07:11.368-05:00I have a "friend" who posted to her face...I have a "friend" who posted to her facebook that they were considering surrogacy so she did not have to go through pregnancy again. I have no idea if she was serious, but the whole concept of posting that kind of statement has me dumbfounded!Jerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15183128697979057848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-5340679262831242502010-07-24T12:49:52.928-05:002010-07-24T12:49:52.928-05:00Anonymous, most of the adopters I know are not sel...Anonymous, most of the adopters I know are not self-centered, egotistical, delusional or needy people. I'm sure there are some who fit into this category, and they shouldn't be adopting.Bukimomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-77758981345100418912010-07-24T12:48:25.744-05:002010-07-24T12:48:25.744-05:00So many Ads like this make me think of:
Georgia T...So many Ads like this make me think of:<br /><br />Georgia Tann - The Baby Thief and responsible for sealing records and her advertisements in newspapers to get your wife a baby for christmas...<br /><br />OR<br /><br />The Orphan Trains where the kids were lined up on the train station for viewing in each town they passed through with flyers put up in advance. Siblings torn apart never to reconnect or even say goodbye. Farm labor was hard to come by and adoption was seen as the solution and completed on the spot...come pick out the one you want.<br /><br />Adoption seems to be going backwards into what it used to be and that makes me very very sad and scared for the next generation.<br /><br />And unfortunately with globablization the reach is even wider.Sandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-87792269603032401082010-07-24T12:47:25.298-05:002010-07-24T12:47:25.298-05:00It seems like one way or another any motive for ad...It seems like one way or another any motive for adoption is going to get squashed. I am curious, anon and others what is the correct motive to adopt? We are starting the adoption process because we would love to have another child in our family and feel called by the Lord to proceed with adoption. We have the desire and resources to adopt a sn child and to give them the love and medical care that they will need that they would not be able to get in an orphanage. We don't see ourselves as heros or "amazing" or as "saviors". We are just doing what we feel led to do.<br /><br />I see your point on the add but would like to note: We are using WACAP and we spent an entire weekend in training learning about many of the issues that go along with adoption. They strongly encouraged attending support groups and calling your social worker with issues that need to be addressed. They would never advocate sending a child back on a plane! <br /><br />It is sad that this is not a perfect world but I am happy to serve a sovereign God who is at work in ways that I cannot comprehend. Who can make all things work for the good to those who love Him.<br /><br />All glory be to God!<br /><br />AngieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-79995517121761281842010-07-24T10:02:14.907-05:002010-07-24T10:02:14.907-05:00Bukimom...
Buying a child to "build a family...Bukimom...<br /><br />Buying a child to "build a family" or out of "charity" is disgusting either way.<br /><br />Adoptees are not mortar of which to bond you to your spouse. We are also not charity cases who want self-centered, egotistical, delusional, and just plain needy people to adopt us because they feel sorry for us. <br /><br />This ad shows exactly what the adoption industry thinks of us: commodities to be promptly processed and delivered once the order is placed by people who are "paper pregnant". ((BARF))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-76495649342364607112010-07-24T09:08:29.803-05:002010-07-24T09:08:29.803-05:00I agree that there is something unsettling about t...I agree that there is something unsettling about this ad, and I think your analysis is spot-on, Malinda.<br /><br />But it is making me wonder something. Why are those people who adopt out of a sense of generosity/helping a child in need the ones so often villified here on this blog, while those who are "building a family" are seen as the good adopters? To me, it would seem that this ad would appeal more to the second group, those who are trying to complete their own perfect family vision through adoption.Bukimomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-14892316501904150302010-07-24T08:00:08.956-05:002010-07-24T08:00:08.956-05:00One day I think (hope) even people who know nothin...One day I think (hope) even people who know nothing about adoption will look at something like this and be HORRIFIED because this is horrifying and yet there it is in Adoptive Families. AF has a responsibility, too. Maybe that's who we need to write to.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-45091591091883867692010-07-24T07:40:47.252-05:002010-07-24T07:40:47.252-05:00Yup, because we adoptees are nothing but commoditi...Yup, because we adoptees are nothing but commodities that can be bought, sold and shipped in boxes, just as you would any other thing. 9_9윤선http://seumnida.annyeong.netnoreply@blogger.com