tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post3135864262598867084..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Bio Kids and Adopted Kids in the Familymalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-57957573804077723042008-11-03T10:30:00.000-06:002008-11-03T10:30:00.000-06:00I agree that this is a tough situation for bio/ado...I agree that this is a tough situation for bio/adopted familes. <BR/><BR/>I love to see my husband and I "physically" in our biological son, but it doesn't mean I love my adopted daugther any less. I think they can co-exist. We are his biological parents so of course he will look like us and I we acknowledge this simple fact. I certainly don't want him to feel ashamed by it. I'm sure my daughter looks like her biological parents and probably even has some of their mannerisms. And this I also acknowledge with her. <BR/><BR/>At the same time, however both our children seem to have many shared traits by virtue of living in our family together. The general way we dress, our mannerisms,etc. seem to also be similiar to some extent too. This also puts a smile on my face too. <BR/><BR/>As my daughter gets older, I sure some day she will express and grieve that she "looks" different than us. I'm sure I'll be beside her crying along with her too. It's something that I cannot change and it makes me sad too that it will cause her pain. All I can do is be there for her and help her work through her thoughts a feelings. <BR/><BR/>I think it's good to talk this through with your daugther in a private and safe space and find out how she feels about it. Knowing her thoughts on the matter might be useful in knowing what kind of response would make her feel less an "outsider" in these situations.SBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09077968328093810152noreply@blogger.com