tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post2392556750071264110..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Competitive Adoption Motheringmalindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-19955249954993206372012-01-07T21:30:39.599-06:002012-01-07T21:30:39.599-06:00Okay, one of the lists seems to have gotten cut of...Okay, one of the lists seems to have gotten cut off. <br /><br />But if you search Yahoo groups for AdoptionParentingTWEENSandTEENS you should find it.<br /><br />Good luck!<br /><br />Anon. #1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-24247393873488270722012-01-07T21:27:11.505-06:002012-01-07T21:27:11.505-06:00Anon. 1 here. I know of several post-adoption Yaho...Anon. 1 here. I know of several post-adoption Yahoo email lists! Here are homepages for a few:<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/adoptionparenting<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AdoptionParentingTWEENSandTEENS<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/homelandtravelchina<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/International-Adopt-Talk<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/post-adopt-china<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/RaisingChinaChildren<br /><br />The first one, AdoptionParenting, is a topic driven list where they have a discrete topic every 2 weeks and discussion is supposed to focus on that. The HomelandTravel list is specifically about traveling in China post-adoption. InternationalAdoptTalk is a list made up of adult adoptees, IA parents, and interested others. It's pretty quiet these days but I imagine there's a lot of gold in the list archives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-513294093781185502012-01-07T15:01:35.650-06:002012-01-07T15:01:35.650-06:00anon 2, anon 1 here. me too. kills me to see tho...anon 2, anon 1 here. me too. kills me to see those things. are you on some sort of post adoption forum? i can't find any on yahoo… our state one is lame - no one posts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-87867188274727006782012-01-07T00:02:25.292-06:002012-01-07T00:02:25.292-06:00I also admit I judge other APs for what I perceive...I also admit I judge other APs for what I perceive are their deficiencies. Like, how CAN they be doing that (or not doing this other thing) in this day and age?? <br /><br />Latest judging moments for me happened within past 10 says. On a yahoo adoption list I'm on, mom of a 12-year-old posts that she needs support for her daughter, who is experiencing a lot of grief over feeling totally disconnected from her birth culture. Family lives in Penn. county that's basically white-people-ville. I immediately thought, how can these kinds of things still be happening? What has this mom been doing to help her daughter feel connected to birth culture up to this point?? <br /><br />Another recent moment was with a long-time fellow adoptive mom in our community. This family has done very little to connect their daughter to her birth culture, despite many opportunities in our city. I keep thinking the doo-doo is gonna hit the fan for this girl at some point in the future, and it ain't gonna be pretty. Feel bad for the girl that her mother seems to think cultural support isn't necessary, or is afraid of it, or something. <br /><br />Anon. #2Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-60661564915816811262012-01-06T18:40:00.534-06:002012-01-06T18:40:00.534-06:00i find myself doing this. more about whether our ...i find myself doing this. more about whether our parenting styles are appropriate (being open with our kids about adoption, sleep issues, cultural issues, etc. i feel bad that i sometime judge families who are making adoption parenting mistakes based on what i've studied. really, i don't like that i do it. but i do. no comparisons on the kids 'doing' things. more on whether the parents are doing the right parenting things given their child's situation. changing names, negating the country of origin, no attachment focus, anything… sorry to my ap friends.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com