tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post2313340379425745343..comments2024-02-27T00:41:15.985-06:00Comments on AdoptionTalk: Should Open Adoption Agreements Be Enforceable?malindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233439015219192874noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-27940333544890919142012-07-30T23:37:59.917-05:002012-07-30T23:37:59.917-05:00Count me in. My parents had a closed adoption in t...Count me in. My parents had a closed adoption in the 1980s when they adopted me, and they were given the "option" to send baby pictures to my bio mom. They opted NOT to because they wanted to ensure I was their daughter and there wouldn't be any 2nd thoughts by the bio mom later down the road. (And trust me, being raised by people ready to have me was the best thing that could have possibly happened to me.)<br /><br />They stood behind their closed agreement. <br /><br />I think these agreements, open or closed, should be specific and legally binding UNLESS at some point the patents w/ custody wish to have it re-arranged. I'd have to believe those would be pretty rare cases. I have a set of friends who gave up a child in an open adoption to new, more prepared parents. They have stuck to their agreement and it's worked out really well for all parties involved.<br /><br />I think it's important to note the difference between a "restraining order" and an open adoption. I like the "divorce" analogy because it doesn't mean the people who are "divorced" can't have coffee together or forge some other live or reletionship outside of the marriage together. That's what I'd picture an open adoption to be like - Each open adoption is probably a very unique relationship.-J.D. Humenayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086704419701940067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-316191265933534655.post-38394189558245396372012-07-30T21:38:10.908-05:002012-07-30T21:38:10.908-05:00Yes. I think it should be as legally binding as i...Yes. I think it should be as legally binding as it is in divorce cases where the parent without primary custody still has rights. I don't understand why it can't be put in a legally enforceable contract.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14934033119198457032noreply@blogger.com